About Us

Who We Are

My name is Steve Hockett and the counselling service I provide is called Alton Counselling Services.  I am a member of BACP.  I qualified in 1996 and have been providing a professional service since then.  I have an Advanced Diploma in Counselling.  In 2008 I qualified as an Adoption Counsellor registered through Barnardo’s.  This enables me to work with birth families, adoptees and adoptive parent(s).  I practice in central Southend with close-by parking and easy access by bus and train.

I attend regular training and adhere to regular ongoing supervision.  My fees are £35 per 50 minute session.  In certain circumstances this can be reduced to £25 and I am happy to discuss this.  Couple counselling is £35 per couple per 50 minute session.   I very much appreciate how difficult counselling can be.  It is important to show warmth and empathy and provide a safe confidential counselling setting.  The amount of sessions is flexible and is decided by you, the client, in consultation with myself.   It is always the client’s decision how often they attend counselling.  Sometimes clients take a break and return when any difficulties arise.

My experiences in counselling are as follows:

I have worked in primary and secondary schools and therefore have a good understanding of children and young people.  Within the school system I have worked on self-esteem and bullying issues.  I also very much enjoy working with families and looking at their relationship needs.  All of my counselling career I have worked with children and young people who have been in the care system.  This is also very rewarding work.

I have worked in GP surgeries where the GP would refer clients to me for counselling to help their patient move forward.  Counselling is never a quick fix and even small steps are progress!  As a client you would only see me as my practice has no other counsellors.  I very much enjoy the challenge of counselling and helping people move forward in their lives.

Some of the areas I work in are:

  • General Anxiety and Depression
  • Life or work related issues; bullying and sexual harassment
  • Couple Relationship breakdown – communication breakdown; leaning how to be non-judgemental in a relationship; building up trust; learning how to compromise and listen to each other
  • Sexuality Issues – gay relationships; family relationships
  • Children and Young people in the care system and family breakdown
  • Adoptive Parents and their adopted children; it is a great challenge adopting children especially those who have suffered from physical and emotional trauma; I help them with attachment issues; behavioural issues; educational problems at school; I also go into schools to explain attachment issues to the staff and explain how it affects behaviour and emotions
  • I work with children with behavioural issues within the school environment helping staff and parents
  • Young people who self harm; working together with their parents

If you would like to contact me for an informal chat please do so or if you prefer you can contact me through email.

 


What our clients say

Steve has supported both myself and my teenage son (with Asperger’s) since 2015 through mental health issues, educational difficulties and other aspects of the colourful life my son presents with!
He has literally been a life support through some immensely tough times for us indeed.
He is always kind, extremely calm, a wealth of knowledge and flexible with locations.
We couldn’t have come so far without his help and continuing support.

Testimonials from Asperger’s Syndrome

We went to see Steve as a family to help relationships within our family. My husband and I have 3 children and at times life was getting pretty hard work, Steve treated the children brilliantly, made them laugh and made them feel totally at ease. It gave us and the children quality time to talk and listen out of the home environment. It is still today a work in progress with the children’s relationships but greatly improved. It was very worthwhile and I feel that anytime we may need to revisit we can always call on Steve again.

Testimonials of Family Counselling

My husband and I have been having marriage counselling with Steve for a couple of months and have found it so helpful. Steve is so friendly and made us both feel so at each after our first session which made it very easy to return. We found that he listened to both points of view and understood both points of view. We always left feeling like a weight was lifted. We took fully on board any advice and ideas that were given to us and once implemented found things became so much easier for us. Learning to understand and listen to each other was key and I am thankful that things have changed for the better with our relationship.

Testimonials of Marriage Counselling

Thank you so much Steve for enabling me to move on in my life around many difficult issues. I have grown and taken different paths, knowing that you were always there when I needed someone to talk to. I am so grateful for all the support that you have given me, so thank you again.

Testimonials from Clients

I’ve been seeing Steve for several weeks now. He’s helped me deal with problems I didn’t know I actually had. It’s still very much ‘work in progress’ but Steve is very easy to talk to and makes you feel very much at ease.

Testimonials from Clients

Steve has helped me achieve some clarity in what has been responsible for causing me problems. He has given me the tools, through discussion and role play, to face the problems and cope with them. Sometimes it’s the simplest things that help the most. I don’t think I would be in the good place I am now without his support.

Testimonials from Clients

During the time I have know Steve Hockett and used his counselling services he has helped me immensely. Steve has shown compassion and understanding of my problems but puts them into perspective on every occasion by helping me see things in a more rational light and by suggesting effective coping strategies. I unreservedly recommend Steve Hockett’s Counselling services having used a few in the past!

Testimonials from Clients

I would not hesitate to recommend Steve to any person who has a problem in an area where Steve specialises. Although he has got no magic wand he allows me to discuss the situation and offer insight preventing the problem from becoming insurmountable. Steve is always at hand and is non-judgemental and observes the sincerest confidentiality.

Testimonials from Clients

Steve Hockett has been my counsellor for quite a long time now. He has helped me deal with some very deep routed issues and several bereavements. Having counselling can be daunting but Steve put me at ease from the start; I trust him and feel I can talk to him about things I’d never discuss with anyone else. I feel my counselling sessions with Steve have helped me get my life on track and build my confidence

Testimonials from Clients

Thank you for everything you have done for me this year – your support and help in guiding me through the toughest moments of this year. I am now looking forward to the future

Testimonials from Clients

I am now more assertive in my relationships and cope much better in stressful situation

Testimonials from Clients

I can now stand back from things and challenge my negative thought

Testimonials from Clients

The counselling I received has been brilliant and helped me move forward in life

Testimonials from Clients

As adoptive parents we really enjoyed working with Steve as he has a great way with kids. He really helped us with strategies for coping with their challenging behaviour and attachment issues

Testimonials from Adoptive Parents

I’m grateful for Steve’s specialist knowledge in helping me come home to myself by overcoming issues related to adoption

Testimonials from Clients

I’m very grateful for Steve’s help and advice of how to cope and deal with Asperger Syndrome and to accept that the condition I have is part of who I am

Testimonials from Clients

I think we all really benefited from this counselling.  It has been a life-line at a very difficult time.  Our counsellor has really helped the emotional development of the children

Testimonial of Family Counselling

Thank you for being real with me and helping me to find a happier and more fulfilling way forward

Testimonials from Clients

If I am honest my time in counselling with you has changed my life completely

Testimonials from Clients

I am lucky to have the power and flexibility to learn and change.  I realise it is ongoing Steve – I thank you for your part in that achievement

Testimonials from Clients

My goals are different, rational, without pressure and developing into what the real me wants

Testimonials from Clients

Your professional assistance and the many approaches I took to change my outlook put me in a space where I wanted to just enjoy life and bathe in the feelings that I struggled to reach for many years

Testimonials from Clients

My life is richer now and although a lot of what is around me remains the same my framing is totally different

Testimonials from Clients

To have someone understand completely and validate how I’m feeling; no if’s and but’s or maybe and without trying to fix it

Testimonials from Clients

I now feel accepted, valued and worthwhile

Testimonials from Clients

He listens to my way of explaining things

Testimonial of Adopted 12 year old child

Steve has helped hugely, for us to make sense of our children’s deep hurt.  He has helped us deal with their behaviour

Testimonials from Adoptive Parents

Our counsellor has been very patient and extremely supportive of us during the ups and downs in trying to maintain a relationship with our son

Testimonials from Adoptive Parents

Steve has personal experience of challenging adopted children which really helps

Testimonials from Adoptive Parents

Steve’s easy to talk to and put me at ease

Testimonials from Adoptive Parents

The fact that Steve is an adoptive parent means he can relate to our concerns.  He’s very easy to talk to

Testimonials from Adoptive Parents

I have more empathy and understanding of the children’s behaviour

Testimonials from Adoptive Parents